The state of overexcitement is a sign of inner restlessness & instability – this imbalance becomes evident when you notice that the states of overexcitement always create the opposite states of a real downer (depression or frustration) as the next cycle. Overexcitement pulls you to 1 extreme of light natured polarity – as a result, the next swing is towards the extreme of a dark natured polarity like depression. If you want to continue experiencing life in an unstable manner you can continue with this unconscious movement of swinging between extreme polarities – however if you want to experience inner stability, you need to bring a balance to your mind & emotional momentum. Overexcitement is also a sign of a mind with a high momentum – such a mind is inherently a source of resistance towards allowing the seamless intelligence/wisdom of your life-stream to operate in your reality. Some of the signs that are exhibited by people with an inclination towards overexcitement are as below (one need not exhibit all the signs, but the presence of even 1 of these signs is an indication towards a possible imbalance towards excitement):
– A tendency towards being overly talkative or overly expressive with their body movements, to the extent of being incoherent, repetitive, over-zealous & draining to the listener.
– A tendency towards being awkward in a social situation instead of being relaxed. Awkward behaviour includes being fidgety, exhibiting a restless body language, trying to please with nervous smiles etc. Basically these are indications of becoming overly excited in a social situation instead of maintaining an inner balance.
– A lack of conviction, with a tendency to vacillate between influences from the outside.
– Tendency to be unpredictable in their moods, swinging from high moods to low moods in an erratic manner.
– Exhibiting a strong tendency towards impatience. In some cases it is difficult for such a person to sit still even for a few minutes without wanting to fiddle with something.
– A constant engagement in entertainment, distraction & activity. It is difficult to sense any real space of calm in such people – they are so constantly full of movement.
– An attitude of being purely driven by the need for excitement creating a sense of shallowness, surface-level thinking, insincerity, recklessness & insensitivity.
– A tendency towards becoming overly passionate to the point of losing oneself in the activity or experience. For e.g., losing oneself to anger to the extent of losing control of a sense of wisdom or losing oneself to joy to the extent of becoming reckless. (All signs of a mind with a high momentum, which is what overexcitement really is).
– A tendency to buy into the promise of “extra ordinariness”, and feel let down when reality shows itself in its polarities.
– A constant tendency towards restlessness.
A mature mind (a mind that has a deeper understanding of life, and has come to a conscious wholeness) is never attracted to any excited states of being – it is always rooted in a sense of balance.
The 2 polarities of over-excitement
Overexcitement can simply be termed as a state of high momentum in the mind. This momentum can take any form – light natured & dark natured. When it takes the light natured form you feel over-exuberant /ecstatic, and when it takes the dark natured form you feel over-anxious/depressed – they are both actually forms of excitement (or instability), only differing polarities. The mind is bound to swing into both polarities – you cannot avoid that, and the momentum of your mind will play out in each polarity – the higher the momentum, the higher the swing.
You can see how an overexcited anxiety state can cause you to take frantic actions in the hope of getting back to an exuberant state – you soon become a person craving the high states (or states of relief) to the extent of taking reckless actions to fuel this craving & looking for different forms of pseudo-security from the outside – this is natural, as the overexcited states of dark polarity are far more difficult to handle, causing the need for immediate relief. It is common for such people to take up addictions like alcoholism, drugs or even adrenaline based entertainment of some form, including sex – the problem lies with the fact that these distractions are used as a constant form of escape, rooted in the fear of low states.
Physically, the state of overexcitement is always draining. Any form of excitement causes the body to get into an adrenaline-rush mode which is an added burden on its regular functioning, and thus a constant proclivity towards excitement leaves your body fatigued & unnerved. It is also common for an overexcited mind to make choices towards amplifying the state of overexcitement through its behaviour & habits, for e.g., there is a tendency in overexcited people to eat foods that directly cause more excitement (sugar-laced, caffeine-laced etc). It is also common for people to be fed-up of their overexcited state & take depressants to lull the nervous system, for a sense of temporary relief, or eat food in large quantities to cause the body to become slack – these forms of suppression just cause the body to lose its vitality.
Finding freedom from overexcitement
Overexcitement is not just a mental deal but a physical deal too – the stronger the mind momentum, the more acute the physical response. A simple test is to sense if an excitable thought in the mind (fear-based/joy-based) creates a sensation in your chest & gut area in an intense manner – it is an indication of a strong momentum in the mind & an accumulation of suppressed emotional energy. When the mind momentum reduces, the thoughts of the mind do not affect the body space in any strong way – this is why the state of wholeness is a physical experience, and not just a concept in the mind.
We can consciously come to a state of balance over a period of time by using our awareness to remove the anchorage to the mind’s momentum & releasing the store-up of suppressed energy (emotional clearing) of the past – thus allowing the momentum of the emotional body & mind to reduce. It is a process & a journey, and it is something you need to undertake within yourself knowing that it is your own commitment towards balance that will take you towards it – a mindset of blame, resentment, bitterness, self-pity or defending your negativity is not going to serve any purpose towards bringing you towards wholeness.
It is important to understand that this process is a journey & it entails time – do not expect overnight results or quick fixes. Once you have a proper understanding of this process, it would usually take a few months to start sensing the onset of stability coming in – however the time could vary depending on how much momentum you are carrying within, and how willing you are to be open to the process. Once you get the essence of this process you understand that it does not really matter how long it takes – it is a journey you want to undertake, knowing that it is inevitable to undertake it at some point or the other. Take the time to gain a conceptual understanding of this process 1st – this understanding will help your mind see the logical sense in this process, and thus assures it to be committed towards it. A good understanding can cut short the time you take on this journey by a huge margin.